5 reasons why people go back to abusive and toxic relationships
Have you ever wondered why people can’t just get enough of their toxic and abusive partners? I bet you might have thought that they may be stupid for letting someone do them like that.
However, there’s more to it than beats the eye. Here are some of the reasons why people who try to run away from abusive relationships always find themselves back to square one.
- They don’t know that they are in a toxic relationship because it is normalized by society.
Because people see abusive and unhealthy relationships as a form of a rode-or-die adventure, in effect, it makes the victim think that everything is normal and is a part of any relationship.
- Abuse destroys self-confidence and deteriorates self-worth.
Any form of abuse will impact a person’s confidence and leave psychological damage to one’s perspective about his or herself. People, especially if they are abused emotionally, will find it hard to leave and start fresh as they would think that they will never be enough for anyone, and in the end, they end up staying.
- The fake rainbow after the storm.
Abuse is often followed by a make-up honeymoon phase wherein the abuser would do something nice in a bid to win the victim back. In reality, though, this phase is always short-lived, and another incident of abuse is inevitable. It is also a form of manipulation.
- Society romanticizes being a martyr.
Let’s face it, staying despite all the abuse is seen today as a cool thing, and being blind for love is a thing. While on the other hand, giving up on a person and choosing your well-being is seen as a sign of weakness and being selfish and conceited.
- Love.
They stay, simply because they still love the person, and they hope that their love can change the other person one day.
If you know someone who keeps coming back to abusive relationships, help them by listening and making them feel that you are there. Your presence will remind them that they are loved and that they don’t have to endure their burden alone. Just being there will go a long way.
